Question that one of my male clients at Barbican Escorts asked me recently was how do I get my girl to stop solving my problems and just listen to me? I think this is a really common problem. I know that I’ve struggled with it for years and only until recently have I realized. Number one that I wasn’t actually listening and was just trying to fix my man’s problems.
And two really why I was doing it and what could change in terms of the communication that would allow a deeper connection and for the men that I’m with to actually feel heard. So this will give you just a few different insights about why girls do this. and what you can do to ensure that when you come to the table with things that are going on your life your woman doesn’t immediately go into problem-solving mode, and start trying to fix things that aren’t necessarily broken according to Barbican Escorts.
So why do you girls do that in the first place why do you girls try to come in and offer solutions. well it’s actually tied to being feminine a lot of girls get their senses of identity from fixing problems from being able to do things and being able to complete things and have a some sense of competence. So when women hear you come to the table and they see or perceive as a problem, where their mind goes immediately as they are looking for a solution, they are looking for a way to rescue you from your state of mind.
Because, see emotions for a woman are very differently held than how they’re held for a man and a man’s mind emotions are something that are rich and to be experienced in invade then whether they’re good or bad and to be felt and to be expressed and to be processed and communicated but see for a girl emotions are like quicksand. And when a girl typically gets caught in emotions she feels like she’s sinking and that she needs to get out of it.
so see when a girl’s trying to fix your problem it’s not that she thinks there’s something wrong with you it’s that she doesn’t have the ability or is having a very hard time being with you while you’re going through this these emotions and because she’s having a hard time handling it she’s trying to rescue you from that state. So now you can see that the girl trying to fix your problem isn’t that she’s not listening it’s that there’s a sense sometimes of a low-grade anxiety or maybe panic that comes up that she’s trying to solve.
so what can you do to help your woman become a better listener well there’s two things one you can communicate and second one is you can be conscious of how you are positioning yourself when you are talking about and expressing the emotions in your life.